Jul 15, 2020
Our self-esteem can take a beating during our divorce. The sense that we’ve lost part of ourselves, the pity of others and feeling like a failure all contribute to it.
The good news is, self-esteem is something that can be rebuilt and it’s in our control. The aftermath of a divorce is a great opportunity to reclaim parts of ourselves that we compromised, sacrificed and lost in our marriage!
But we need to commit to releasing our past to do that.
How do we remind ourselves of our value, and begin to feel good about ourselves again? In this episode, I share how to get self-esteem back after divorce knocks it down.
If you stay stuck in reliving and clinging to what is no longer your reality, you won’t see the correct path to the next chapter of your life. -Wendy Sterling
3 Things You’ll Love About This Episode
Change your focus to raise your
self-esteem
Negative thoughts come from us trying to drive
forward while looking in the rearview mirror. If we keep shedding
light on the negatives, we end up defining ourselves by
them.
Understand how divorce can shake your
identity
Being in a
couple can make us build our identity around the relationship, and
see ourselves in relation to someone else or the role we played in
our marriage. When that goes away, it shakes our
self-esteem.
The more we chase perfection, the lower our self-esteem
becomes
Perfection creates misery and feelings of
failure, and trying to attain it destroys our self-esteem. When we
say that we “should” or “must”, we get caught in the trap of
believing there’s a better way to do something, and that our way is
wrong.